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Romantic wedding portraits – more than just the kiss

August 12, 2011 Neil vN 11 Comments

Romantic wedding portraits – more than just the kiss

More frequently than not, when looking at the work of other photographers, I see that the romantic portraits of the couple are just of them kissing. Having worked with a number of photographers over the years, I’ve also seen how the instruction “and now, kiss”, becomes reflexive. Pose the couple; have them look at each other … *snap* … and now kiss … *snap*. And then the photographer takes no other photos of the couple at that specific place. Yet, there are more (and perhaps even better) ways to show intimacy in the romantic portraits than just having the couple kiss …


Have the couple snuggle in,
have them whisper to each other,
have them lean in closer until their noses just barely touch … or not.

Have them nuzzle each other on the side of the other’s face,
cheek to cheek,
or corner of the mouth to the other’s cheek.

Just gentle teasing caresses and whispers and laughter.

Shoot from different angles,
shooting over each one’s shoulder, catching the other’s expression.

Your position as a photographer should not be static. Move around.
With a longer lens, a slight change in your position will change the background.

Move around and find different angles, while the couple interact with each other and spend a minute or two with each other. A longer lens will help with giving them a bit more space to be with each other.

In all this, you’ll be able to get more spontaneity and expression than the mere instruction, “and now, kiss” will engender. And you’ll be able to show the couple really interact with one another.

 

camera settings & photo gear used (or equivalents)

  • 1/200 @ f4 @ 400 ISO … available light only
  • Nikon D3
  • Nikon 70-200mm f2.8 AF-S VR II  /  Canon EF 70-200mm f/2.8L IS II  …  used at approx 105mm

 

related articles:

  • using the available light is not a random decision
  • Jen & Chris –  wedding photography, The Venetian, NJ
  • more wedding photography tutorials

 

Filed Under: posing, Uncategorized, wedding photography Tagged With: how to pose the bride and groom, New Jersey wedding photographer, posing tips, wedding photographers in New Jersey, wedding photography


 

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11 Comments, Add Your Own

  1. 1Ciaran Fallon says

    August 12, 2011 at 7:31 pm

    Really well written Neil. Thank’s as always for going to so much trouble to help people like me. I’m shooting my sisters wedding, in two weeks time and have today just ordered 85mm 1.2 for Canon.Both of your books and your tangents blog are my source of inspiration.Thank you..

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  2. 2Mary-Claire says

    August 12, 2011 at 8:59 pm

    Perfect timing for yet another useful blog! Shooting a couple in a few days. Thanks!

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  3. 3Karen says

    August 12, 2011 at 9:14 pm

    Beautiful Neil. Your explanations are perfect and I thoroughly enjoy reading your tips and tricks. I always look forward to your newsletters and facebook posts. AND I love both of your books. Thanks from the “sandbar”

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  4. 4Jose Rivera says

    August 12, 2011 at 9:48 pm

    You hit the nail with this fantastic article. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and experiences!

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  5. 5Neil Dejyothin says

    August 13, 2011 at 4:38 am

    Nice article Neil and some cool tips in there – I never really know where I stand on such things in terms of directing.

    If the couples are relaxed and you just let them do their thing, then you can really capture some lovely intimate moments, but if you direct too much, then it can often come out forced. But I think sometimes you need to weigh up what the couple is like, some will need a little directing and some are just natural and have that instant vibe as soon as they come together and making them feel relaxed is the most important part and more to do with your rapport with them than anything.

    I was particularly pleased with one of the weddings I did last weekend, where the couple were just amazing and showed so much passion and intensity with one another and as a result, the shots didn’t come out forced.

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  6. 6Edy says

    August 13, 2011 at 5:30 am

    Hello Neil,
    fantastic as always.
    I advertised on your site and your person here in my city …. all are very happy to meet you and appreciate your work ..
    I’ve personally bought both your books ……. For the second (Flash Off Camera) I had to let me send from my aunt who lives in New Jersey.
    The question I pose is this my friends ….
    It would be possible to have the books with translations in Italian??
    I am convinced it would sell so many in Italy ….
    Let me know
    Thank you for everything ..
    Edy Trigona Genoa Italy

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  7. 7Neil vN says

    August 13, 2011 at 6:27 am

    Translations of my books are entirely up to the publisher and what they can arrange with local publishers in other countries.

    Reply
  8. 8Jason says

    August 13, 2011 at 9:59 am

    I always have to force myself to move, move move! Its so easy to find yourself just standing in the same spot not getting any unique angles. Great post Neil!

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  9. 9Stephen says

    August 13, 2011 at 9:43 pm

    Neil,
    That is a great tip.

    Reply
  10. 10Jennifer Lynch says

    August 13, 2011 at 9:58 pm

    The first photo is a stellar example of using available light — or should I say using it well. Amazing. Such a gorgeous exposure. I’d love to know how you ‘see’ this light and see that it’s ideal. Second one beautiful too but I really love the first.

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  11. 11Russ says

    August 17, 2011 at 12:40 pm

    You are THE man, Neil! Thanks!

    I love the simplicity – and what a difference it makes!

    Reply

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